The aftermath of a traumatic event can be enduring and as great a devastation as a physical injury. Trauma shatters security, sense of self, trust, and hope, and leaving only feelings of unworthiness, loss, fear, and confusion. There are many forms of trauma and it does not discriminate against its victims in age, gender, religion, wealth, or political beliefs. The path to healing is often a painful one and not meant to travel alone. Our desire is to be with you on that journey to be your guide. There is healing for the abuser, abused, and concerned loved ones.
Our role is to provide a safe space to unload your story. Shame’s power comes from secrecy, and it is now time to remove that power over your life.
A safe, fulfilling, and enjoyable relationship with who you are and with others is possible through recovery and healing.
Sexual assault and molestation can often be a secret held by the victim alone or a known secret in the family and often go unaddressed. Sexual abuse also occurs in intimate relationships, between partners and spouses. The sexual abuse leaves the individual dirty, ashamed, and confused, and often affects interpersonal and intrapersonal relationships in his or her life. Years later, it can affect romantic relationships, sexual intimacy, and increase the risk of substance abuse, anxiety, and depression.
- “One in 9 girls and 1 in 53 boys under the age of 18 experience sexual abuse or assault at the hands of an adult. 1
- 1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed, 2.8% attempted). 2
- About 3% of American men—or 1 in 33 American men—have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime. 2
- 82% of all victims under 18 are female. 1″
Emotional and Psychological Trauma
There can be many forms of emotional and psychological traumas. Events that leave the individual feeling scared, confused, ashamed, and unworthy are traumas. These traumas can be unintentional or intentionally cruel and repetitive.
Sometimes parents or caregivers can be consumed by meeting the demands of providing financial security, career, or illness that they may neglect the emotional needs of the child. The child then carries on the scars of impaired attachment, struggles in their own career, life goals, and/or parenting.
Intimate violence and abuse can present in relationships where one individual attempts to control the other(s) through isolation and intimidation. The abuser may attempt to sabotage relationships or careers, manipulate, use finances to control, verbally demean or shame the other, or use physical force, including violence and sex. Then, the abuser may present as apologetic, loving, and needy, often guilting the victim to forgive.
Loss and Grief
Loss of a loved one can be a traumatic event, be it anticipated (in the case of terminal illness) or sudden. Loss can be a miscarriage or a stillbirth, which combine the loss of a child with the hopes and dreams you had held for your child.
Trauma in childhood often results in the loss of childhood innocence. The anger and grief of what was and what could have been.
An illness often associates with loss of function and the adjustment to your life plans.
Some may say time heals all wounds, but often time the wounds are buried and left to fester. With therapy and treatment, our mission is to provide understanding, empathy, and a safe place for us to explore and, together, work through your regrets, your darkest thoughts, fear, and anger.
Combat trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) are normal responses to abnormal, traumatic events. In the involvement or witnessing of combat, one’s mind and bodies are set in survival mode. However, the trouble becomes when the mind and body remain in that survival mode after the event and cause dysfunction. This can involve classic symptoms of PTSD: anxiety, insomnia, exaggerated startled response, nightmares, changes in appetite, and physical symptoms of increased heart rate, sweating, and blood pressure.
The psychological effects of combat trauma can include fear, anger, shame, and sadness. It increases the risk of anxiety and depression disorder. Therapy involves making sense of what one had to do to survive.
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
PTSD is a normal response to trauma. PTSD can occur from experiencing or witnessing a traumatic event. It can occur in accidents, violence and wars, natural disasters, bullying, loss of a loved one, sexual, physical, verbal, and emotional abuse.
Symptoms of PTSD include nightmares, intrusive memories of the traumatic event(s), poor sleep, anxiety and panic, mood dysregulation, avoidance of senses, triggers, or memories that remind you of the traumatic event, being constantly on guard and easily startled.
Symptoms can emerge immediately or can take up to months and years to emerge. PTSD symptoms can resolve on their own, but often need treatment to bring relief and recovery.
There is hope; there are effective treatments to help management response to trauma, abuse, and loss.
Counseling and therapy: are talk treatment to unpack those memories, work through the anger, fear, and shame. Different therapy models are helpful to help with trauma, from CBT to EMDR. Talk with your counselor about what may be right for you.
Medication management: Our experiences change our brain and body functions. Different types of medications are effectively used for symptoms of trauma. Talk with your medication provider about your options.